Posted by: amica | September 17, 2009


I had an ARD meeting yesterday at M’s Jr High. Our therapist attended as did the special needs administration. Prior to our meeting, they had spoken with all of M’s teachers and were happy to report that he is doing great. He is so nice, helpful, smart, etc. This is where I sit and smile and wait for them to finish. The therapist and I then proceed to educate them on RAD and how this is very normal. We explained the need for tangible consequences, constant supervision, to be alarmed if he isn’t to his classes right away, etc. They looked at us like we had 3 heads. That’s ok, I am getting used to it but don’t pooh-pooh my son’s needs, people! They can’t really classify him as special needs because his grades are good and he hasn’t shown any behaviors at school (in the whole 4 weeks he has been there.) I got this from H’s elementary school too. She can’t be tested because she hasn’t shown THEM a need for it. I will say though that they willingly completed a 504 for her and all necessary accommodations were included. I told them about all the things we now know that took place during school and was initiated by H. Just because she wasn’t caught doesn’t mean they didn’t happen. I am not overly knowledgeable about IEPs but does anyone know if my children have to be showing their RAD selves at school in order to be special needs or to be tested?

Also, the only negative thing that was reported about M by 3 of his teachers was that he is hyperactive.  Dr. J and I looked at each other and stiffled a giggle. I explained that he isn’t hyperactive, he is reacting from anxiety and/or trying to impress his friends in his socially inept way. Dr. J added that M is one of the most mellow children she has ever met and the hyper-activity is not normal for his behavior.  They still wanted to know if he has been tested for ADHD and if he is on meds…



  1. “They still wanted to know if he has been tested for ADHD and if he is on meds…”

    Ah geez, Louise!

    Soooooo wish you had knocked on their heads while saying, “Helllooo! McFly!”

  2. Not sure about RAD on an IEP. But, if your kid has Autism for example it is not automatically cause for an IEP. The school decides if it is significant to learning or not. So, you can have the greatest neuro in the world diagnose your kid but the school does not have to accept it for educational purposes.

  3. Wish I could help….betting Mike can though…

  4. In Arizona the requirements are that their disability has to be negatively affecting their school performance. If it is not, they do a 504 instead of an IEP. We have a 504 in place for our daughter, though she chooses not to comply with the requirements.

  5. Oh, and you can ask the school to do some educational testing, that may reveal some learning disability. The key is persistence. Keep bothering them until you get what you need.

  6. Don’t you just love the re-education process you have to go through with the schools/teachers/administration every year? “He’s so sweet, he’s a pleasure. A bit impulsive, but a real pleasure.” By “a bit impulsive,” when you finally get to the bottom of it, they mean he’s leaving his desk every 15 seconds or so to go do whatever he pleases. Would they ever have told you if you hadn’t insisted on repeated meetings at which you bang your head against the wall explaining RAD over and over and over? Oh, and not getting caught may mean there’s even more of a problem that if she was getting caught! Why can’t the school see that?

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